December 23, 2023
Don: Welcome to the design and prosper podcast. You’re listening to episode 110, really important question for you. Possibly the most important question you can ask yourself in 2024 everybody.
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Hello everyone. So it is the beginning of December right now, but we’ve just looked at our schedule and this podcast will be landing. Literally, Boxing Day.
Kris: Just after after Christmas. If all goes to plan
Don: Yeah, if it doesn’t.
Kris: Best laid plans.
Don: If it does, How was your Christmas? Haha
Kris: Yeah, did have a nice break?
Don: How was the holiday?
Kris: How was yours, Don?
Don: Ok, let’s go in the future. Mine was fabulous. Let’s manifest. I had the most fabulous Christmas. There were no issues. All the food went to plan. Yeah, let’s, let’s go with that.
Kris: Yeah, no family issues?
Don: Yeah. Nobody got sunburned because we are in Australia, we are in the height of our summer and it’s predicted we are going to have some very hot weather, so, so we’ll see. It’s so funny chatting about a day that hasn’t happened yet.
Kris: Yeah, but that’s where we’re landing. And we know that when you’re listening to this, that’s the energy that you’re in right now. That time between Christmas and New Year’s. So we hope you’re having a great time, whatever you’re doing, whether you’re working or whether you’ve got time off.
Don: Yeah.
Kris: So we’ve got a big question for you to think about and contemplate for 2024.
Don: Yeah. So, this is the perfect time, right? Who do you need to be in order to get you where you want to go in 2024? a bit of a doozy, isn’t it?
Kris: A doozy.
Don: Who do you need to be in order to get YOU where you want to go in 2024?
I love this question.
Kris: Well, when I first got asked this question and I was put on the spot, I was a little bit like, I didn’t know what to say.
I was like, Oh my God, I don’t know who I need to be to make the changes that I need to make. And this is a really big, honest conversation that you’ve got to have with yourself.
Really think about it. What would it look like? Who would you be?
Don: Absolutely. And it was incredible what popped into my mind immediately, but then once I had a little bit of time to reflect. It got deeper and deeper.
Kris: you know what popped into my mind immediately? Was imperfect.
Don: Yeah.
Kris: So it was just me going, I need to, and this is a constant life’s works. My life’s work, everybody
Don: Yeah.
Kris: Is to release perfectionism, right? So it’s like, I would need to be to get where I want to go. I would need to show up imperfectly, but still show up.
Don: Yeah, absolutely Mine was very different
Kris: Yeah.
Don: Mine was I need to be a delegator. I Have lost myself in my own business. It’s tricky. It’s really tricky because When you are starting a business and you have a you take so much control. You want to control everything, you want to do everything, you want to do everything for yourself.
You want to make sure that all the moving parts are moving in the way that you want them to be. And initially, delegate less. But then what can happen is you get into that pattern. The pattern of not delegating, the pattern of the doing, the doing, the doing, the doing. And you forget the power of delegating.
Because delegating might require an injection of cash in your business that might require a sacrifice of income. It might require trusting other people. It might require all those things. So it was really incredible that that came to me straight away. It was like that in order to move forward, have to share the load.
Kris: Uh huh.
Don: Give a lot of this to other people. Not just in my business as well, I might add. I think that a lot of that, because Kris and I always talk about business and life balance. I need to delegate inside my family as well.
Kris: that’s what I was just thinking, Don. Like this is a really big question because some of you might be really relating to Don and it might be just that you’re not asking for help enough.
Don: yeah.
Kris: It’s like, we have this weird thing in society where it’s like, we have to be so self accomplished and we can do everything and, I’m self sufficient and I don’t need your help. So maybe that’s it for some of you. It’s like I need to be a person who asks for help. That’s who I need to be. And it could be of your family. It could be just like getting somebody to help with the house clearning
Don: The washing up!
Kris: yeah, whatever it is.
Don: that’s it.
Kris: Yeah, you’re not a failure.
Don: not a failure.
Kris: If you ask people to help around you. And I think, I think back in time and even in traditional cultures, like it’s such a community. It’s such a, a group. Everything’s like a group thing and we have these little nuclear families and mine’s even like not, it’s like two people in my little family. And it’s like, it’s so isolating and it’s really hard to ask for help.
Don: It really is. It really is. So delegating is really critical in business and it is really critical in life as well.Asking for help is great. And a lot of you, I’m sure, would be relating to what Kris has said, which is imperfect. You know, releasing perfectionism. It’s, that’s something that really, I know grips a lot of designers and, you know, Kris definitely is, as she said, something she’s working on. I’m also working on it as well.
It’s, it’s a doozy. It’s a really big one.
Kris: It’s sneaky. It sneaks back up on you.
Don: so sneaky.
Kris: I’m all over this, like I’ve, I’m letting all that go. And then it’s like. There’s this little task or this little project or something comes up and it’s like you’re not letting go. You’re not letting go of like these little details that don’t really matter in the scheme of things.
I actually heard a quote the other day, about perfectionism which you might need to hear, which is not you, Donna. I’m looking at you, Donna, but I’m talking about our beautiful audience out there. Okay.
Don: Yes. Tell me, tell me. What it is?
Kris: Okay. So it is perfectionism is a direct correlation with how much money I’m making.
Don: Oh, hello. That’s a mic drop, Kris. I’ve never heard that before. That’s incredible. Yes.
Kris: insert other unhelpful behaviours here. People pleasing is a direct correlation with how much money I’m making. Yeah. For sure.
Don: For sure. And being a mantra, I’m just wondering if we could flip it on its head.
Kris: To be positive.
Don: To be positive.
Because Kris and I love our affirmations and our mantras. Saying yeah, so I’m, I’m going to be making more and more money because I’m not letting perfectionism cripple me. I’m not letting it sabotage me. I’m not people pleasing. I’m not whatever. Insert bad habit there. Or not bad habit.
I don’t like to say that, but insert, uh, self sabotaging belief here.
Kris: It is about beliefs, but it’s also, it is about habitual behaviors and patterns that we have in our lives. So it’s like, and that’s the thing, like it’s, you’re not going to change these things overnight, you know, because you go, okay, this is it.
I’m going to do this now. I’m going to be this. But as soon as we put a focus on it and put a spotlight on it, you have that intention and the drive to release it.
Don: Awareness is everything. So powerful. So coming back to our question, this is a, this is a quickie. So we’re going to leave and we want you to contemplate it and really think about it. So who do you need to be? in order to get you to where you want to go in 2024. Who are you? Let us know.
Kris: Might be something like, I need to be more confident, I need to be bolder.
Don: I need to be braver.
Kris: I need to take ownership, I need to take responsibility for what is going on in my life, what is showing up in my life.
That could be a big one for some of You You know, I’m not going to blame other people anymore. I’m going to actually take accountability, take responsibility and show up in a different way.
Don: Yeah.
Kris: I’m going to finish things. I’m going to finish what I’ve started. Some of you might have that problem. Like it’s just procrastination and you’re just not finishing it. And that could actually be involved in intercepted beautifully hand in hand with the perfectionism thing.
Don: Yeah, absolutely
Kris: so there’s food for thought. Who do you need to be?
Don: Who do you need to be? And again, remember, remember it’s all about life, business balance. So there’ll be a crossover. There’ll be a crossover for sure.
Kris: Yeah, it is a crossover because I can pretty much guarantee that what’s showing up in your business is showing up in your life and vice versa.
Don:Vice versa. Absolutely. So be honest with yourself. Don’t be afraid of the answer. Sometimes when we do this deeper work and, and you might think, Oh, this is a little question. It’s not that deep. It’s deep. It’s deep work. Allow the first thing to drop in to be something that you assess. But then what we like to do and we do this in the Academy, we go deeper with everything.
We go deeper, we discover more, more, more. So we want you to start with that whatever drops in. And then go into it a little bit more until you actually are sitting with something that you can recognise as being really helpful 2024. And yeah, see what comes.
Kris: Yeah, see what comes. So, because it’s the holiday week, we’ve got just a couple of little quickie episodes coming out this week. So we’ve got this one and then in just a couple of days time there will be another episode which is all about the word of the year. So stay tuned for that one. It’s coming soon.
Don: Yes, that’s it. Alright, beautiful people, enjoy. If you are enjoying the Australian summer, uh, pop your sunblock on, enjoy that sun on your face,
Kris: Or if you’re enjoying some snow, which I would love to experience snow around
Don: Let us know, we’ll come on over. I know,
Kris: I just
want all the things associated with it, like all you know, the warm little cider drinks I just think the lights and everything, like the Christmas lights and sparkling lights and things make so much sense if it’s cold and dark
Don: None of the Christmas stories make sense in Australia.
Kris: They don’t. And I guess in some parts of the even in the United States and California and that sort of thing.
Don: Yeah, right.
Kris: the sun is setting pretty late here cause, you know, we’re heading right into, you know, mid summer and the The pretty lights on the houses. It’s pretty late before you get to go and see them.
Don: Yeah, yeah. our little tradition is ice cream or gelato. and drive bys. So we go and grab the gelato, everybody piles in the car, and we drive around and we find the Christmaslights. It’s always hot, so gelato is a very, very good idea, and we drive around looking at all the beautiful lights. It’s crazy o’clock because we’ve got to wait for the sun to go down. It’s one of our favorite little family traditions. We do that every year.
Kris: Yeah, we do that too, except I have to do it several times because my daughter loves Christmas so much and loves the Christmas lights so much, so yeah, we’ve already done it a few times and I have to say, I don’t think everybody’s got their lights up yet.
Don: Well I haven’t yet. It’s only the 7th of December Kris. Here, as we sit in the recording studio. So we’ve got time. We’ve got time.
Kris: Okay, everybody. We’ll chat soon.
Don: Yes. And be brave with this question. Everyone. This is a really big question and we hope that it reveals a lot about what you need for 2024. So be brave with it and have fun.
Kris: Okay, bye!
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